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Modeling An "Open Mind" in the Early Years

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MODELING AN "OPEN MIND" IN THE EARLY YEARS

By: Matrix Parent Services | March 15, 2024

Even when our children are young, it’s essential to recognize that it is never too early to learn to address a potential conflict. Misunderstandings and disagreements happen...we are human after all. Particularly when our children are living with disabilities, calm, person-centered communication is critical: it's important for parents to address conflict openly and to model behaviors. Children living with disabilities are often "in the middle" of a variety of education and childcare-related issues. Communication with teachers and caregivers can sometimes feel like a full-time job and one that your child will eventually participate in as they mature.

The following list, while basic and by no means extensive, offers helpful reminders on how to address and resolve disagreements with children five and under who require specific support in educational and childcare settings:

Use “I” messages
Make eye contact
Watch your body language
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes
Clarify individual pieces of the conflict
Solve as close to source as possible – start with your child’s teacher first
Utilize administrative hierarchy
Communicate your concerns clearly
Be calm and factual
Document your process

Approach conflict with curiosity and involve your child when appropriate in that curiosity. How does this make you feel? What would be a better feeling? Be as honest and kind as you can.

Matrix Parent Advisors can also help! Call our Helpline, 800-578-2592, to discuss any problems or concerns you may have with your child’s services. If we cannot help you, we will provide you with a warm referral within our partners’ network.

Matrix Parent Network is a local nonprofit organization whose mission is to empower families of children with special needs to successfully understand and access the systems that serve them. Their vision is families full of hope and confidence as their children with special needs flourish and grow toward fulfilling adulthoods."

Sarah Dobrovolny lives in San Anselmo with her husband Spencer and their 20-month-old Sadie. Sarah is a Stay At Home Mom and serves on the SMMC Board as Director of Philanthropy. Sarah also volunteers as SMMC’s SAHM group leader, co-leader of the San Anselmo/Fairfax town group, coordinator for Little Movers & Shakers, on the 2023 Events team, and as a copy editor for The Crier.